This past weekend I attended The W.E.L.L. Summit: Wellness. Empowerment. Learning. Luxury. The weekend was full of talks, breakout sessions, and networking with some of the most amazing wellness professionals, self-improvement coaches, and up and coming bloggers I have had the pleasure of meeting so far on my journey with TSC. While all of the speakers and sessions were both thought provoking and amazing, this week I will be sharing some of the things I have learned with you babes over a three article series.
The W.E.L.L. Summit Series Part 1: How to Keep Inspired + Creative Throughout your Stumbles, Struggles, and Falls + Come Out on Top with Candice Kumai
Candice is a Chef, Author, and Leading Wellness Journalist. Some of you may be familiar with her online recipes or some of her cookbooks, and if not, I highly recommend you check some of her stuff out here. I am not sure what I expected from Candice’s session, but as a successful woman in the wellness space, not much older than myself, I was really excited to see what she had to share with the group. Candice’s breakout session began with her story. The story that she shared, however, wasn’t about how she built her website and following, the best step she took toward advancing her career, or how she made it onto Top Chef. Instead, Candice chose to share a story of her vulnerability and how after a year of unexpected struggle and hardships, she learned how to turn her challenges into her strengths and how to get up after she fell down and be even stronger than she was before. Through her vulnerability, Candice shared experience and wisdom that all of us - no matter our journey - can relate to and use to become the best and strongest version of ourselves.
Tip #1: Comparison is the thief of joy
Candice shared one of her favorite quotes that “comparison is the thief of joy.” This idea made me think about social media, especially Instagram, and the role that is plays for so many of us. While Instagram has so many positive purposes, it can also allow us to fall into a pattern of constantly comparing ourselves to one another, especially in the fitness space. I definitely fall into the habit of looking at images of fit babe after fit babe wondering if I’ll ever have the abs that they have, how they can eat all those treats and still look great, and thinking that they are so lucky to have so many followers. Candice’s talk made me truly realize how damaging this behavior is, and how easy it is to change. She explained the simple, but needed idea, that when we compare ourselves to others we either (1) are only seeing ourselves as successful in comparison to others instead of what we are truly capable of as individuals and (2) we minimize our own successes. Instead, Candice explained that whenever we compare ourselves to someone else, we lose the personal joy, happiness or satisfaction we should be feeling in so many situations. She urged us to instead focus on our own journeys and how far we have come based on our own goals and potential.
Tip #2: The only thing that separates all of us is action
You babes all know that I love the Nike slogan “Just Do it” because I think it is applicable in so many situations. Debating starting a new workout program, learning to cook something new, or bringing meditation into your life? The only way you will achieve success or value added to your life from any of these things is to stop talking about it and start doing it! Candice’s quote “the only thing that separates all of us is action,” centers around this same idea. Be one of the doers and start bettering your life each and every day.
Tip #3: Failure is only in the eye of the beholder
This idea in particular was so important for me to hear. I really struggle with the idea of failure and what others will think of me if I do fail. I am afraid to try something new in front of others because I worry about what they will think if I don’t do well – this affects me in the gym, at work, and even socially. Candice hammered home the point that we are the only ones who view our failures as failures, and we need to stop thinking or worrying so much about how other people will view our less than perfect moments. She also explained that not only are we the only ones who view certain things as failures, but we have the power to change how we perceive and react to these events. I know I am really going to try and internalize this idea and stop letting the idea of failure keep me from trying something new or pushing to achieve more in all areas of my life. And when I do have a less than perfect or ideal outcome, I am going to do what I can to change how I react. If you have been in your own head and your fear of failing is keeping you from bettering yourself, I would love for you to try and apply this philosophy to your own life too.
Tip #4: Kaizen the Japanese Philosophy of Continuous Improvement
The last idea that I will share with you all is Kaizen, the Japanese philosophy of continuous improvement. Candice talked a lot about how throughout her life her Japanese mother would always remind her of this idea and it is something that she carries with her in all areas of her life. I already believed in constant improvement and striving to be better each and every day, so I love having a word to describe this idea. I plan to continue to implement this philosophy in my life and push to add it into areas of life I have not been as focused on. If you need ideas on how to integrate Kaizen into your life, try reading a new personal development book, signing up for a new race or fitness event, or try cooking something new for dinner tonight.