This past weekend I attended The W.E.L.L. Summit: Wellness. Empowerment. Learning. Luxury. The weekend was full of talks, breakout sessions, and networking with some of the most amazing wellness professionals, self-improvement coaches, and up and coming bloggers I have had the pleasure of meeting so far on my journey with TSC. While all of the speakers and sessions were both thought provoking and amazing, this week I will be sharing some of the things I have learned with you babes over a three article series. Here goes Part 2!
The W.E.L.L. Summit Series Part 2: Fear and The Imposter Syndrome- How to Do Extraordinary Shit By Understanding and Owning Your Fears with Cyndie Spiegel
Cyndie is a Business Strategy Coach For Women Entrepreneurs and a total badass. During her breakout session we dove head first into the ideas surrounding fear, the imposter syndrome, and how to make good shit happen anyway. She explained that fear can be a completely debilitating emotion and it makes us feel incompetent, disconnected, and a complete fraud. She discussed and explained how by learning how to tap into our fears, we can learn to use them to propel us forward and power us to achieve so much more. Although Cyndie focuses on business strategy, all of these ideas are so applicable to our fitness and wellness journeys.
First, Cyndie explained The Imposter Syndrome. The Imposter Syndrome refers to high-achieving individuals marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud". This idea extends to any of us who ever feel like someone is eventually going to catch on that we are not actually qualified for our job, the praise or recognition we receive, or really, inadequate in anything that we do. Cyndie went on to explain that this feeling is caused by our own fears, and then went out to teach us how to get over this hump to achieve more by owning and understanding the fears that we have.
To help combat this idea, first acknowledge that you’ve had a hand in your own success (did you really only PR your squat last week or your marathon because of your coach or did you play a pretty big role in that too?!). Then, remind yourself that your path may be different than everyone else’s but that does not make it small or less than (see The W.E.L.L. Summit Series Part 1 for more on the idea of comparison from Candice Kumai). Finally, respect the fear that you have but challenge the power that it has over you. Remember that you are worthy of your accomplishments and the goals that you hope to achieve.
I think Cyndie’s discussion on how to challenge the power that fear has over us is something that I will really try and implement in my own life. Cyndie explained that in order to do extraordinary shit, we need to own and understand our fears. Importantly, the reactions that we have to fear are real, but we can change how we respond to our fears by thinking and analyzing what we are afraid of which will help us to minimize our fears by putting them in perspective. So ask yourself what are you afraid of and then, what is the worst that can happen if that fear comes true. Is it really something to be afraid of?
Let’s apply this idea here: If you sign up for a marathon you may be afraid you either won’t be able to finish the race, won’t have a competitive time, or that you won’t PR. What is the worst that can happen if those things happen? Ummmm you might be a little disappointed, but you can always try again. Is that really something to be afraid of? No way!
Fear is within your control and is keeping you from being the best version of yourself you can be. Why not do something to change that?!